Flattery

Godey's, January 1863

How to treat flattery.—If a gentleman approaches you with words of flattery, and profuse attentions, especially after a short acquaintance, extend no encouraging smile or word ; for a flatterer can never be otherwise than an unprofitable companion. It is better, by a dignified composure, to appear not to notice, than, with smiles and blushes, to disclaim flattery ; since these are frequently considered as encouragements for further effusions of these " painted words."
You may with propriety accept such delicate attentions as polished and refined men are desirous of paying, but never solicit them, or appear to be expecting them. 

--The Lady's Guide to Perfect Gentility (1856), 147